Yours or mine????

"its my perception, what is your problem?" i'm sure most of us would be guilty of having used the phrase mostly out of sheer frustration... and ten out of ten times we think we are right... but is that always the case?? are we always right.. its humorous enough to say "the only time i was wrong was the time i thought i was wrong" but that's not reality... each person is entitled to their opinion and their views.. it's how they perceive a particular situation or person...

if each person is entitled to such freedom of perception then isn't it our duty to respect this freedom... well.. of course it is.. but what do you do when two people have significantly different perceptions of the same situation.. different feelings and different emotions???

Most of the time we argue just to prove that our perception is right... there is a famous Buddhist parable which goes like this "two students argued and argued about their understanding of a lesson the teacher had taught in class, they finally decided to let the teacher judge who is right and who is wrong. the first student explained to the teacher what his understanding of the lesson was, and teacher said he was right.. the first student left the room with a triumphant expression on his face... the second student then explained his understanding.. and the teacher said that he was right too.. he also left the room feeling victorious... a third student who had seen what happened asked the teacher how could both of them be right when each had contradicting views.. the teacher told him that he too was right..."

Well we might have different, in fact opposing perceptions to same situation.. but the trick is to understand that the other person's perception is as important to him as yours is to you..