Friday, October 31, 2008

Giveth...

Giveth with all thy heart;
'cos giving with all thy heart is an art.
Love, affection, compassion, weigh more
than gold and silver galore.

Give without a desire to receive
and no one you will deceive.
Like "Mercy" everything is blessed twice;
that which is given without a price.

Give love not hate.. Give thanks and praise...
Passion and compassion..
So honestly trust that it may touch;
"Because he is blessed, the one who giveth
and the one who receiveth"

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Trust.....

It was meant to be a taunt when i told my friend that I don't trust him... but that left me thinking about it for a long time...

What is Trust??? Is just the reliance on another?? not really.. its not just the reliance.. it is the ability to share.. share dreams.. ambitions.. fears...telling the truth without the other being skeptic about it.. the repose of confidence and the belief in their judgement...

The foundation stone of a relationship. No relationship can survive without trust.... but building trust is easier said than done... building trust requires hard work and commitment.. but more than anything else it requires complete honesty.. you need to listen and communicate your needs.. there is no beating around the bush when it comes to building a strong relation.. put forth honestly and effectively what you feel.. The simplest way to trust a person is to accept them for who they are...

Trust elevates commitment... sustains performance... and creates harmony.. in every relationship.. whether a familial, romantic, friendly or professional..

There are many people who can trust others very easily.. while there are others who have trouble trusting people... many a times there an be trust on a complete stranger.. and you never know why!!!

Someone once asked "why do trust me?" and pat came the reply... "Trusting you was my decision and proving me right is your choice".. if someone trusts you try and ensure that you prove them right.. because if trusting is difficult; rebuilding trust is twice as difficult.. but then “Trust is like a vase.. once it's broken, though you can fix it the vase will never be same again.”

Monday, October 27, 2008

Express yourself...

Not long ago.. i wrote about weighing our words.. thinking before we speak... and here i am presenting its corollary... i know it sounds very cliche after being Airtel's tag line.. "Express Yourself"..

There have been innumerable occasions when we feel strongly about something but let it stay within ourselves..our dreams.. our thoughts.. our ideas.. our ambitions.. our emotions... Vent it let the other person know how you feel.. Because till you don't say it, it is more than likely that the other person wont know how you feel...

How many times has a small misunderstanding lead to an argument, an argument into a fight.. and ultimately to an out of hand situation.. all that was a little talking and a little listening... Airtel was right again when they said "talking breaks barriers" but talking not breaks but also prevents barriers..

When was the last time you told your mom a "thank you" or gave her a compliment for all she's done for you??? When was the last time you told your dad "I'm there don't worry"??? when did you tell your siblings that "you care"?? when was the last time you told your spouse you love them dearly???

There are many who argue that true love and care doesn't need words.. it can be felt.. but today in this fast moving world of cut throat competition and superficial relationships sometimes our loved ones need to hear the genuine word of love care... and see the smile on their face and the sparkle in their eyes..

As Madonna says..

"You don't need diamond rings
Or eighteen karat gold
Fancy cars that go very fast
You know they never last"

So don't hold it back... it may be a small thank you.. or a little sorry.. a hug... a sweet song.. or a simple i love you.. a small note.. a bunch of flowers.. or anything personalised for your loved one.. you don't have to be perfect.. if you feel it express it because that might be what the other person is waiting to hear.. Express Yourself and feel the difference..

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Three Questions....

It once occurred to a certain king, that if he always knew the right time to begin everything; if he knew who were the right people to listen to, and whom to avoid, and, above all, if he always knew what was the most important thing to do, he would never fail in anything he might undertake.
wishing to find the right answers to his questions, he decided to consult a hermit, widely renowned for his wisdom.
The hermit lived in a wood which he never quit and he received none but common folk. So the King put on simple clothes, and before reaching the hermit's cell dismounted from his horse, and, leaving his bodyguard behind, went on alone.
When the King approached, the hermit was digging the ground in front of his hut. Seeing the King, he greeted him and went on digging. The hermit was frail and weak, and each time he stuck his spade into the ground and turned a little earth, he breathed heavily.
The King went up to him and said: 'I have come to you, wise hermit, to ask you to answer three questions: How can I learn to do the right thing at the right time? Who are the people I most need, and to whom should I, therefore, pay more attention than to the rest? And, what affairs are the most important and need my first attention?'
The hermit listened to the King, but answered nothing. He just spat on his hand and recommenced digging.
'You are tired,' said the King, 'let me take the spade and work a while for you.'
'Thanks!' said the hermit, and, giving the spade to the King, he sat down on the ground.
When he had dug two beds, the King stopped and repeated his questions. The hermit again gave no answer, but rose, stretched out his hand for the spade, and said:
'Now rest awhile -- and let me work a bit.'
But the King did not give him the spade, and continued to dig. One hour passed, and another. The sun began to sink behind the trees, and the King at last stuck the spade into the ground, and said:
'I came to you, wise man, for an answer to my questions. If you can give me none, tell me so, and I will return home.'
'Here comes some one running,' said the hermit, 'let us see who it is.'
The King turned round, and saw a bearded man come running out of the wood. The man held his hands pressed against his stomach, and blood was flowing from under them. When he reached the King, he fell fainting on the ground moaning feebly. The King and the hermit unfastened the man's clothing. There was a large wound in his stomach.The King washed it as best he could, and bandaged it with his handkerchief and with a towel the hermit had. But the blood would not stop flowing, and the King again and again removed the bandage soaked with warm blood, and washed and rebandaged the wound. When at last the blood ceased flowing, the man revived and asked for something to drink. The King brought fresh water and gave it to him. Meanwhile the sun had set, and it had become cool. So the King, with the hermit's help, carried the wounded man into the hut and laid him on the bed. Lying on the bed the man closed his eyes and was quiet; but the King was so tired with his walk and with the work he had done, that he crouched down on the threshold, and also fell asleep -- so soundly that he slept all through the short summer night. When he awoke in the morning, it was long before he could remember where he was, or who was the strange bearded man lying on the bed and gazing intently at him with shining eyes.
'Forgive me!' said the bearded man in a weak voice, when he saw that the King was awake and was looking at him.
'I do not know you, and have nothing to forgive you for,' said the King.
'You do not know me, but I know you. I am that enemy of yours who swore to revenge himself on you, because you executed his brother and seized his property. I knew you had gone alone to see the hermit, And i resolved to kill you on your way back. But the day passed and youdid not return. So I came out from my ambush to find you, and I came upon your bodyguard, and they recognized me, and wounded me. I escaped from them, but should have bled to death had you not dressed my wound.I wished to kill you, and you have saved my life. Now, if I live, and if you wish it, I will serve you as your most faithful slave, and will bid my sons do the same. Forgive me!'
The King was very glad to have made peace with his enemy so easily, and to have gained him for a friend, and he not only forgave him, but said he would send his servants and his own physician to attend him, and promised to restore his property.
Having taken leave of the wounded man, the King went out into the porch and looked around for the hermit. Before going away he wished once more to beg an answer to the questions he had put. The hermit was outside, on his knees, sowing seeds in the beds that had been dug the day before.
The King approached him, and said:
'For the last time, I pray you to answer my questions, wise man.'
'You have already been answered!' said the hermit still crouching on his thin legs, and looking up at the King, who stood before him.
'How answered? What do you mean?' asked the King.
'Do you not see,' replied the hermit. 'If you had not pitied my weakness yesterday, and had not dug these beds for me, but had gone your way, that man would have attacked you, and you would have repented of not having stayed with me. So the most important time was when you were digging the beds; and I was the most important man; and to do me good was your most important business. Afterwards, when that man ran to us, the most important time was when you were attending to him, for if you had not bound up his wounds he would have died without having made peace with you. So he was the most important man, and what you did for him was your most important business. Remember then: "there is only one time that is important -- Now! It is the most important time because it is the only time when we have any power. The most necessary man is he with whom you are, for no man knows whether he will ever have dealings with any one else: and the most important affair is, to do him good, because for that purpose alone was man sent into this life! "

This is a Buddhist parable by Leo Tolstoy. And the simplicity with which it explains the philosophy of "When, What, How" is amazing. It is this basic understanding that we need to reduce our own suffering and realise our full potential of compassion and tranquility and the sense of happiness...
1903

Monday, October 20, 2008

Think before you speak....

“Weigh your words” is not a futile one liner idiom. Communication is the most important aspect our relationship with others. Your words can either bring you happiness or come back to haunt you. It all depends on you. Like an arrow which has left the bow, words out from the mouth cannot be taken back. Sometimes words can hurt deeper than swords. “SORRY, I DIN’T MEAN THAT” doesn’t really always heal the wound harsh words leave. And by the way if you dint mean that couldn’t you be more thoughtful and considerate about the other persons feelings??



When we feel the emotion of anger, we are most likely to take it out on whoever is with us.. and if no one is we have the tendency to call someone and vent out our frustration.. and end up saying something we might regret..






You don’t really have to agree with everyone and everything all the time… but listen.. listen to their side of the story and then put forth your difference in opinion.. but thoughtfully and gently..

I know that there have been times when something has upset me and without thinking, I have lashed out at the person closest to me. I'm still learning how to be aware of my thoughts and language and keep in mind "Words are like fire, they can either warm or burn.."


Thursday, October 16, 2008


It is said that nature is the best teacher... an trust me it is... I'm sure there are innumerably large number of us who love going to the beach.. ever looked at the vast span of waters an wondered if its telling us something??? teaching us a simple lesson of life.. A simple lesson.. to relentlessly move ahead.. there are highs and there lows.. there storms and there is a calm... but we need to move on... move on till we reach the shores... but is that all??? is the shore the limit?? not at all.. move on to the next one.. life never comes to a standstill... live life to the fullest... don get bogged down by the challenges of life.. and Mark Twain said.."Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover"