Possessiveness..

i got a text which said that "possessiveness does not arise because we do not trust someone but because we cannot imagine our life without them.." and i just starting thinking about it..


and as usual i checked the dictionary.. the dictionary defines possessiveness as "Having or manifesting a desire to control or dominate another, especially in order to limit that person's relationships with others." Um.. does that sound good??? the tendency to feel possessive is totally natural but there is a huge difference between being and acting possessive.. most have the opinion that personal freedom and choice are of utmost importance.. but for all though..


Possessiveness is the underlying reason that otherwise sane person totally insane... and possessiveness is not found only in a romantic relationship where there might be a degree of insecurity forming the base of this emotion...

but look a toddler... try taking his mum away from him and you'll hear him wailing, screaming and probably he'd attempt to beat you up.. and toddlers are possessive not only about their mums but also about their toys...

but the toddler is just learning isnt he???

relationships collapse because of possessiveness overdrive and power struggle.. actions in a relationship can never be reasoned out.. the joys and happiness are meant to be shared and not limited like a piece of cake or cookie.. not being over-possessive is a lesson and learning in life that requires conscious effort from our part to put in practise..

in any relationship it should not be sought to take over the other person's life.. rather enhance it..